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Wed, 09 January 2008 00:33  |
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What are your views on online dating?
My daughter has begun developing an online relationship with a 13 year old boy. He has multiple pictures, and she's spoken to him on the phone before, as well as webcam. I look at the chatlogs after they speak, and the computer is down in the kitchen, and hes appears to be a nice kid. However, do I seem like I'm doing the wrong thing?
What is your opinion on letting children have friends or even BF/GF's online?
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| Re: What are you views on this? [message #308980 is a reply to message #308977] |
Wed, 09 January 2008 00:45  |
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Well my views r very dim, my ex left me for a dude who smokes and owns several guns which she would not allow me to do.
I heard from her every 2 weeks or so up until August and havn't heard from her since and fear the worst , so buyer beware.
u du da thinkin' and i'll do da drinkin'
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| Re: What are you views on this? [message #309017 is a reply to message #309003] |
Wed, 09 January 2008 06:13 |
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| Re: What are you views on this? [message #309028 is a reply to message #308977] |
Wed, 09 January 2008 07:50 |
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There is no "love" when you are 13. Any boy after a 13 year old girl is interested in one thing...and you know what that is. I'm sure that SHE thinks she is in "love" with him, but I would bet that he is either infatuated or just strings her along while telling his buddies about the newest "camslut" he has on the line.
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| Re: What are you views on this? [message #309043 is a reply to message #309003] |
Wed, 09 January 2008 08:56 |
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| Jecht wrote on Wed, 09 January 2008 04:25 |
I'm against it - for younger people at least. People online are nameless and faceless. She is certainly at risk for predators. Since she's started I wouldn't necessarily tell her that she can't anymore, but you might want to request to see chat logs and educate her about the risks involved. She is 13 though, so she may or may not listen.
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Well, like I said, I DO see her chatlogs, and the computer is in the kitchen, so I always know whats going down. I don't have a problem with them talking, or even meeting up IRL, as long as I'm there to oversee it, and there to be with her when/if she meets him.
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| Re: What are you views on this? [message #309095 is a reply to message #309028] |
Wed, 09 January 2008 10:39 |
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| Blazer wrote on Wed, 09 January 2008 06:50 |
There is no "love" when you are 13. Any boy after a 13 year old girl is interested in one thing...and you know what that is. I'm sure that SHE thinks she is in "love" with him, but I would be that he is either infatuated or just strings her along while telling his buddies about the newest "camslut" he has on the line.
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That's not very nice, Blazer. I remember being in love when I was 13. I might have been 14, actually, but who's counting?
| MWright967 wrote on Tue, 08 January 2008 23:33 |
What are your views on online dating?
My daughter has begun developing an online relationship with a 13 year old boy. He has multiple pictures, and she's spoken to him on the phone before, as well as webcam. I look at the chatlogs after they speak, and the computer is down in the kitchen, and hes appears to be a nice kid. However, do I seem like I'm doing the wrong thing?
What is your opinion on letting children have friends or even BF/GF's online?
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It's safe to assume your daughter hasn't had an IRL boyfriend? If she has, she'd know that the two are nothing alike, and one beats the other out by far.
I mean, she's still young, and I guess she'll be wanting to experiment like this (Or just plain doesn't know any better). If you oversee the entire thing I guess there isn't much of a problem, but your daughter is setting herself up for disapointment.
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| Re: What are you views on this? [message #309134 is a reply to message #309095] |
Wed, 09 January 2008 11:18 |
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| Dover wrote on Wed, 09 January 2008 11:39 |
| Blazer wrote on Wed, 09 January 2008 06:50 |
There is no "love" when you are 13. Any boy after a 13 year old girl is interested in one thing...and you know what that is. I'm sure that SHE thinks she is in "love" with him, but I would be that he is either infatuated or just strings her along while telling his buddies about the newest "camslut" he has on the line.
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That's not very nice, Blazer. I remember being in love when I was 13. I might have been 14, actually, but who's counting?
| MWright967 wrote on Tue, 08 January 2008 23:33 |
What are your views on online dating?
My daughter has begun developing an online relationship with a 13 year old boy. He has multiple pictures, and she's spoken to him on the phone before, as well as webcam. I look at the chatlogs after they speak, and the computer is down in the kitchen, and hes appears to be a nice kid. However, do I seem like I'm doing the wrong thing?
What is your opinion on letting children have friends or even BF/GF's online?
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It's safe to assume your daughter hasn't had an IRL boyfriend? If she has, she'd know that the two are nothing alike, and one beats the other out by far.
I mean, she's still young, and I guess she'll be wanting to experiment like this (Or just plain doesn't know any better). If you oversee the entire thing I guess there isn't much of a problem, but your daughter is setting herself up for disapointment.
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Thats part of the reason that I'm letting her do it. I want her to be able experience it before dating REAL boys. I've tried to teach her as best I can about how to be safe on a date and what to expect, and not to have sex until shes older, but I can only do so much, and hope that she makes the right decision.
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| Re: What are you views on this? [message #309413 is a reply to message #309095] |
Wed, 09 January 2008 19:59 |
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| Dover wrote on Wed, 09 January 2008 10:39 |
| Blazer wrote on Wed, 09 January 2008 06:50 |
There is no "love" when you are 13. Any boy after a 13 year old girl is interested in one thing...and you know what that is. I'm sure that SHE thinks she is in "love" with him, but I would be that he is either infatuated or just strings her along while telling his buddies about the newest "camslut" he has on the line.
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That's not very nice, Blazer. I remember being in love when I was 13. I might have been 14, actually, but who's counting?
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I'm sorry that the FACT that teenage boys are horndogs offends you. I too remember being in "love" when I was 13. I also remember wanting to fuck anything that moved, including the object of my desire. Young kids are bursting with hormones and are all but incapable of being "friends".
Also, there is the very real danger of pedophiles who know exactly how to social engineer young kids to come and meet them, and the next day they are a news story.
TBH 13 is WAY too young to be in a relationship anyhow, for the reasons I stated above and more. Yeah lots of girls mature faster than boys, and a 13 year old girl may know what shes doing, but who is she really talking to on the other end? A horndog boy who wants to sweettalk his way into her panties? A 50 year old pedo who wants to take naked pictures of her? Do you really want to chance that with your child?
If it was a neighbor kid IRL that seemed okay it might be different, but theres no way I would trust kids on the internet, as I said you don't even know if its a kid, its just a screename and who knows who they really are or what their intentions are.
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| Re: What are you views on this? [message #309416 is a reply to message #309413] |
Wed, 09 January 2008 20:05 |
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| Blazer wrote on Wed, 09 January 2008 18:59 |
| Dover wrote on Wed, 09 January 2008 10:39 |
| Blazer wrote on Wed, 09 January 2008 06:50 |
There is no "love" when you are 13. Any boy after a 13 year old girl is interested in one thing...and you know what that is. I'm sure that SHE thinks she is in "love" with him, but I would be that he is either infatuated or just strings her along while telling his buddies about the newest "camslut" he has on the line.
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That's not very nice, Blazer. I remember being in love when I was 13. I might have been 14, actually, but who's counting?
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I'm sorry that the FACT that teenage boys are horndogs offends you. I too remember being in "love" when I was 13. I also remember wanting to fuck anything that moved, including the object of my desire. Young kids are bursting with hormones and are all but incapable of being "friends".
Also, there is the very real danger of pedophiles who know exactly how to social engineer young kids to come and meet them, and the next day they are a news story.
TBH 13 is WAY too young to be in a relationship anyhow, for the reasons I stated above and more. Yeah lots of girls mature faster than boys, and a 13 year old girl may know what shes doing, but who is she really talking to on the other end? A horndog boy who wants to sweettalk his way into her panties? A 50 year old pedo who wants to take naked pictures of her? Do you really want to chance that with your child?
If it was a neighbor kid IRL that seemed okay it might be different, but theres no way I would trust kids on the internet, as I said you don't even know if its a kid, its just a screename and who knows who they really are or what their intentions are.
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No, I get what you're saying. Don't get me wrong.
All I'm saying is, love is possible at 13. Yes, love, not "love".
| DarkDemin wrote on Thu, 03 August 2006 19:19 |
Remember kids the internet is serious business.
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| Re: What are you views on this? [message #309563 is a reply to message #308977] |
Thu, 10 January 2008 11:14 |
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I once flew to phoenix to visit people for a week I meet on the internet. Then blazer said he didn't "love" me and left me out of the credits ...
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| Re: What are you views on this? [message #309581 is a reply to message #309416] |
Thu, 10 January 2008 12:05 |
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| Dover wrote on Thu, 10 January 2008 03:05 |
| Blazer wrote on Wed, 09 January 2008 18:59 |
| Dover wrote on Wed, 09 January 2008 10:39 |
| Blazer wrote on Wed, 09 January 2008 06:50 |
There is no "love" when you are 13. Any boy after a 13 year old girl is interested in one thing...and you know what that is. I'm sure that SHE thinks she is in "love" with him, but I would be that he is either infatuated or just strings her along while telling his buddies about the newest "camslut" he has on the line.
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That's not very nice, Blazer. I remember being in love when I was 13. I might have been 14, actually, but who's counting?
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I'm sorry that the FACT that teenage boys are horndogs offends you. I too remember being in "love" when I was 13. I also remember wanting to fuck anything that moved, including the object of my desire. Young kids are bursting with hormones and are all but incapable of being "friends".
Also, there is the very real danger of pedophiles who know exactly how to social engineer young kids to come and meet them, and the next day they are a news story.
TBH 13 is WAY too young to be in a relationship anyhow, for the reasons I stated above and more. Yeah lots of girls mature faster than boys, and a 13 year old girl may know what shes doing, but who is she really talking to on the other end? A horndog boy who wants to sweettalk his way into her panties? A 50 year old pedo who wants to take naked pictures of her? Do you really want to chance that with your child?
If it was a neighbor kid IRL that seemed okay it might be different, but theres no way I would trust kids on the internet, as I said you don't even know if its a kid, its just a screename and who knows who they really are or what their intentions are.
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No, I get what you're saying. Don't get me wrong.
All I'm saying is, love is possible at 13. Yes, love, not "love".
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I've been just friends, and I mean just friends with several girls (infact, almost exclusively girls for years, boys have just about matured enough to be acceptable company)
1) Yes, I'm a boy
2) yes, I'm straight
Not everyone is a horndog, or incapable of controlling it, Blazer. I might be 17 now, but when I was 13, I saw my friendships with girls as friendships. Not everyone is like me, either. I see where you're comming from Blazer, but that's not true of everyone.
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| Re: What are you views on this? [message #309599 is a reply to message #309594] |
Thu, 10 January 2008 12:55 |
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| cheesesoda wrote on Thu, 10 January 2008 19:47 |
Yeah, like that'll happen. Next thing you'll know she's fucking some guy on a staircase in the gym. Of course, I'm talking about a couple years from now, but still.
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Well, I don't know about you, but I wasn't fucking anyone on the stair case in highschool. My parents taught me, ''No sex before marriage''. And I abided to it. And now, I have a daughter, and hopefully a son coming up. If I teach them the same way, they're smart enough to do the same.
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