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Re: don't ask don't tell [message #442541 is a reply to message #442532] Wed, 12 January 2011 13:17 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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If you cut out the first four words of the sentence, you start to require evidence. Not exactly available on a cliff edge.


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Re: don't ask don't tell [message #442543 is a reply to message #442541] Wed, 12 January 2011 14:06 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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like i said, i wasn't asking for lab results, just "what is your reason for thinking that?" there is a good reason to think how suicide would affect family/friends, and if there's a good reason then it's not faith.

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Re: don't ask don't tell [message #442545 is a reply to message #441534] Wed, 12 January 2011 16:12 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Tbh, "faith" is just a synonym for "hope."

"I have faith in God" is just a fancy way of saying "I hope God exists... cause if not I'm pretty much screwed."

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Spoony wrote on Wed, 12 January 2011 13:28


if nobody had ever conned him into thinking faith was a good thing, he wouldn't have been in the predicament in the first place. he wouldn't need to say "i have faith that my family/friends will be crushed if i commit suicide"; remove the bullshit con that is 'faith', cut the first four words of the sentence and it not only still works, it's much better.



I'm not saying you're wrong, I can see sense in your arguement. The thing is though, he is in that predicament, is it fair to tamper with that?

Spoony wrote on Wed, 12 January 2011 13:28


one must not be absolutist. in almost every situation honesty is the best policy, though situations can be found where it isn't (the usually cited example is when the nazis knock on your door and ask you if you know the location of any jews)

sure, if someone lies to you about what's happening to a dead loved one it may well make you feel better, but that's a subjective thing. i don't want to be lied to about that and i don't want anyone assuming i would.

i would be curious to know just how he "found" christianity. i also suggest that there are other things you could swap for the word "christianity" in that paragraph without having to change another word.



It may not work for you, but it certainly worked for this guy. He is almost like his old self. If a book, belief or place of worship can give him that relief then I think it's a good thing for him.
You may think that he has swapped one imprisonment for another, but if this is true, then in his case I believe it is the lesser prison.

He found Christianty I believe from a family member some time after his child passed away.

The thing is, he believed his child had died and that was it. They was gone. From your point of view he believed the truth, he just couldn't handle it. He turned to faith and this allowed him to continue. Is that so bad?

Spoony wrote on Wed, 12 January 2011 13:28


not really faith itself, though, is it? the article of faith might be.


I don't actually understand, sorry.


R315r4z0r wrote on Wed, 12 January 2011 18:12

Tbh, "faith" is just a synonym for "hope."

"I have faith in God" is just a fancy way of saying "I hope God exists... cause if not I'm pretty much screwed."

:V



No, that's not what it means to people who have it. They truely believe. There is no hope about it. If they had the level of doubt you're describing then it isn't really and truely faith, they're just going through the motions...



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Re: don't ask don't tell [message #442565 is a reply to message #442559] Thu, 13 January 2011 01:18 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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reborn wrote on Thu, 13 January 2011 00:39

I'm not saying you're wrong, I can see sense in your arguement. The thing is though, he is in that predicament, is it fair to tamper with that?

he doesn't appear to be in the predicament any more, and it sounds a little desperate to suggest that telling him that he has a good reason to think this and therefore it is not 'faith' is a dangerous thing to be saying.

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It may not work for you, but it certainly worked for this guy. He is almost like his old self. If a book, belief or place of worship can give him that relief then I think it's a good thing for him.
You may think that he has swapped one imprisonment for another, but if this is true, then in his case I believe it is the lesser prison.

He found Christianty I believe from a family member some time after his child passed away.

The thing is, he believed his child had died and that was it. They was gone. From your point of view he believed the truth, he just couldn't handle it. He turned to faith and this allowed him to continue. Is that so bad?

like i said, some people may prefer a comforting lie to the cold truth. if the religion works for the guy and doesn't harm or try to harm others he's welcome to it; i hope it comforts him. have you actually read any of my comments on religion? it doesn't sound like it tbh

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not really faith itself, though, is it? the article of faith might be.

I don't actually understand, sorry.

it's what is being believed that has the effect, not the act of believing something for no reason and against evidence.


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Re: don't ask don't tell [message #442566 is a reply to message #442565] Thu, 13 January 2011 01:49 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Spoony wrote on Thu, 13 January 2011 03:18


he doesn't appear to be in the predicament any more, and it sounds a little desperate to suggest that telling him that he has a good reason to think this and therefore it is not 'faith' is a dangerous thing to be saying.



I'm not so sure. Clearly in this case, it was the difference between life and death.
Perhaps you're right though, I just just wouldn't want to have to answer the question "So ok, you're right. Christianity is nothing more than lies based on lies and I clung to it because I was scared and desperately wanted to believe in something, because I cannot believe in myself. Now I know this is all rubbish, I still cannot believe in myself and my reason for living has been taken away, what do you think I should do now, because I'm on my way to Suicide cliff.".
I wouldn't want that sort of shit on my head. Granted though, that's for cases where faith is their entire life. Although if they claim they truely have faith in their religion then this should apply to many many many more people then it does in reality.


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like i said, some people may prefer a comforting lie to the cold truth. if the religion works for the guy and doesn't harm or try to harm others he's welcome to it; i hope it comforts him. have you actually read any of my comments on religion? it doesn't sound like it tbh




I have, and I do read your posts. It's why I was surprised to see you try to steer Carrier down a different trail of thought when he mentioned something quite touching.

The way I see your position on it is "If they keep that poison to themselves, you can shoot it up all day long. Just keep it away from the kids, and anyone else for that matter.". I hope the drug analogy was not lost. Razz


Spoony wrote on Thu, 13 January 2011 03:18


it's what is being believed that has the effect, not the act of believing something for no reason and against evidence.


Yeah I guess you're right. I can't argue with that and wouldn't want to.
I'm just saying that if there is no evidence of it, but they want to believe it and you start pointing out the fact that all the evidence points otherwise, in some situations you're not doing them any favours. Although you've displayed that you've grapsed what I am saying, so I am possibly rambling.

I must admit though, this is probably getting far fetched in this case.

My entire point could probably be summed up with: "You don't have to fight every battle just because it's there, especially when your defense of "doing it for the right reasons" can sometimes fail you (or more importantly fail the person you're trying to "save" ("save" being a rather ironic word to choose I suppose)).".



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R315r4z0r wrote on Wed, 12 January 2011 17:12


"I have faith in God" is just a fancy way of saying "I hope God exists... cause if not I'm pretty much screwed."


Explain please? If god doesn't exist, how would religious believers be screwed?


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True, but the theist shouldnt really sacrifice much at all for a better afterlife, and so wouldn't be screwed

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Re: don't ask don't tell [message #442575 is a reply to message #442566] Thu, 13 January 2011 03:30 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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reborn wrote on Thu, 13 January 2011 02:49

Spoony wrote on Thu, 13 January 2011 03:18


he doesn't appear to be in the predicament any more, and it sounds a little desperate to suggest that telling him that he has a good reason to think this and therefore it is not 'faith' is a dangerous thing to be saying.



I'm not so sure. Clearly in this case, it was the difference between life and death.

and am i really the first person to point out that what made the difference was a hell of a lot stronger than religion would have us believe?

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Perhaps you're right though, I just just wouldn't want to have to answer the question "So ok, you're right. Christianity is nothing more than lies based on lies and I clung to it because I was scared and desperately wanted to believe in something, because I cannot believe in myself. Now I know this is all rubbish, I still cannot believe in myself and my reason for living has been taken away, what do you think I should do now, because I'm on my way to Suicide cliff.".

you're still talking about the guy with two kids here?

the answer's in the question. it really would be sad if i had to point out to him that you have at least two reasons for living, reasons that are real and don't require faith.

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like i said, some people may prefer a comforting lie to the cold truth. if the religion works for the guy and doesn't harm or try to harm others he's welcome to it; i hope it comforts him. have you actually read any of my comments on religion? it doesn't sound like it tbh




I have, and I do read your posts. It's why I was surprised to see you try to steer Carrier down a different trail of thought when he mentioned something quite touching.

are you even reading this thread? didn't you see the part where i pointed out that what supposedly saved his life was a hell of a lot stronger than he's been conned into thinking it was?

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The way I see your position on it is "If they keep that poison to themselves, you can shoot it up all day long. Just keep it away from the kids, and anyone else for that matter.". I hope the drug analogy was not lost. Razz

It's poorly phrased.

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Yeah I guess you're right. I can't argue with that and wouldn't want to.
I'm just saying that if there is no evidence of it, but they want to believe it and you start pointing out the fact that all the evidence points otherwise, in some situations you're not doing them any favours. Although you've displayed that you've grapsed what I am saying, so I am possibly rambling.

In your new thread you suggested that if there's no God then there's no meaning to life and it's all a waste of time.

If anything on this forum would be a dangerous idea to plant in the head of the guy with two children, it'd be that.

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My entire point could probably be summed up with: "You don't have to fight every battle just because it's there, especially when your defense of "doing it for the right reasons" can sometimes fail you (or more importantly fail the person you're trying to "save" ("save" being a rather ironic word to choose I suppose)).".

now you're rambling.


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Re: don't ask don't tell [message #442576 is a reply to message #442575] Thu, 13 January 2011 03:53 Go to previous messageGo to next message
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Spoony wrote on Thu, 13 January 2011 04:30


In your new thread you suggested that if there's no God then there's no meaning to life and it's all a waste of time.

If anything on this forum would be a dangerous idea to plant in the head of the guy with two children, it'd be that.


I believe the reason why he suggested that was so that somebody would be able to show why life isn't meaningless without god; stopping the dangerous idea being planted in peoples' heads


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Spoony wrote on Thu, 13 January 2011 05:30


you're still talking about the guy with two kids here?



Sorry, no. I was talking about Carrier.

Spoony wrote on Thu, 13 January 2011 05:30


are you even reading this thread? didn't you see the part where i pointed out that what supposedly saved his life was a hell of a lot stronger than he's been conned into thinking it was?



Yes I did read the thread. I saw you point it out, but you are assuming that it was based on fact. I'm sure many people care for Carrier, but suppose they didn't? Suppose people do not really care about him one way or the other... Faith in the belief that they do kept him from commiting suicide.

It wasn't faith in Jesus, it was faith in the belief that people cared for him. All the same, it was still faith.


Spoony wrote on Thu, 13 January 2011 05:30


It's poorly phrased.



Really? I thought you held religion in the same contempt as drugs. If not worse?


Spoony wrote on Thu, 13 January 2011 05:30


In your new thread you suggested that if there's no God then there's no meaning to life and it's all a waste of time.

If anything on this forum would be a dangerous idea to plant in the head of the guy with two children, it'd be that.



Yeah, you're right. I am routing for you in the other thread though. I know you'll come through, I have faith in it Razz.

Spoony wrote on Thu, 13 January 2011 05:30


now you're rambling.


Me, ramble? Never! I do think you (and I mean you as in everyone, not you specifically) need to be careful in life when you challenge peoples core beliefs. Some people are more fragile than you realise.



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